Your weight doesn’t describe you
My most asked question in life is “how to lose weight”. I know A LOT of you have requested for a blog post regarding weight loss and my story. I have wrote and deleted that post 4 times, I not only wrote my struggles, moments of desperation but also how it affected me and my health. It made me vulnerable to share it, but I could’ve shared it anyway, because I don’t care much about the judgments that people might have, I’ve been judged so much, that at this point, it has become a second nature to me, to just deal with it. I have been in Size S,M, and L clothing and I’ve no problem in accepting it whatsoever! One thing that remained same was the kind of person that I am. Whether I was fitting in Size S,M,or L or ANY SIZE.
Don’t let social media shove it down your throat that you have to be a certain size to look and feel good about yourself. We all are not meant to look the same. If you’re a horrible person, you’re a horrible person no matter what size clothing you fit in. Get your priorities straight in life. You don’t need to fit in to certain type of people who would only let you in, if you looked a certain way, that is shallowness, and you can’t live your life happily with that pressure on your shoulders. How long would you go? One day you’ll drop the act and find that you wasted a big chunk of your life trying to be someone that you’re not. Learn to love yourself the way you are, and you’ll be surprised how confident and happy you’ll feel.
Rather than trying to “lose or gain weight” opt for “healthy living”, GRADUALLY !! When you rush something, you just set yourself up for a disaster. You’re not gonna wake up one day and be like from today I’ll only eat healthy, and work out twice a day, everyday. That’s a recipe for disaster. How about swapping one unhealthy meal with a healthy one. And until it becomes your lifestyle stick to just that ONE CHANGE. Gradual changes are the way to make actual habits.
So what if you fit in XL or XS size ? What is wrong with that? I don’t see anything wrong, you are your own worst critique. Everyone is too busy worrying about their own flaws. Of course then there are also those who make it harder for you to love yourself the way you are, and be confident, but at the same time, it has nothing to do with you. It’s their sick mentality.There’ll always be people who’ll make you feel bad about yourself, no matter how damn perfect you are. I love that quote, “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, but there’ll always be someone, who hates peaches”.
Stop looking for validations from people to feel good about yourself. How much they do for you ? that you choose to be unhappy because of the silliest comment they made about you ? It’s absolutely great if you want betterment for yourself, but let it be the betterment, don’t make it a punishment. If anyone ever tells you, you are too fat or too skinny and you need to lose or gain weight, tell them, they need to mind their own business and laugh it away, they won’t say it again. Don’t pity yourself, and drown in shame, while everyone is laughing. If they continue Be in charge and tell them how low and shallow their mentality is. If they choose to insult you, you have all the right to give it back and stand for yourself and stop it. And that will only happen if you accept yourself first, for who you are. Otherwise you’ll NEVER have the confidence to take a stand for yourself. Or just choose to be “not bothered”.
If someone really cared about it they will help you achieve your goals, they won’t make fun of you. So don’t give into ” I care for your health and shit” That’s a lie. There’re certain things that you don’t say to anyone in front of everyone, and if you’re educated and civilized enough you’ll know those things, if not. It’s your lack of enlightenment, educate yourself. All I’m trying to say through this blog post is, Your Weight doesn’t describe you as a person, and that’s all there is to it, if anyone thinks it does, cut that person out of your life in the blink of an eye.
So, someone wouldn’t respect you because you’re not fit according to them? That says more about their personality than yours. Of course you care about your health, and no one else does it more than you do for your-own-damn-self. I am not the fittest person in the world, and I don’t care what other people think of me. Because I’m the most confident and happy now that I have ever been, Because I love myself just as how I am, and Because I have my priorities straight in life. Don’t live your life trying to get approvals from other people, If you live for people’s acceptance, you’ll die from their rejection. Be in charge of your own life. So many people tell me that the time I spend “WASTING” on my blog, I can sit back, relax or grab few extra hours of sleep, they tell me how it’s just a headache and I should cut it out of my life. Does that mean I should do what they say? Of course not. Same applies for everything in your life. Do things that you wanna do, and live your life being yourself, rather than becoming a hard copy of someone else’s imagination, and still get judged.
I hope you find this post helpful.
Good Luck !