There’s nothing glamorous about being a Mom
Normally I always refrain to share my personal thoughts on topics like that, because everyone has their own opinion, and I don’t think every opinion needs to be shared. But at the same time I feel like a lot of my mom readers, compare their lives, moms-to-be assume a certain image of life after becoming a mother, and young girls set unrealistic expectations about being a mom. So, when the reality hits, it hits them hard. In all honesty There’s literally nothing glamorous about being a mom. You know you’re a mom when instead for running away from puke, you run towards it to clean it, in the process, it gets all over you too, your baby is covered in the yucky mess, crying their lungs out, and hugs you for comfort, you shower them, which means you’re soaking wet too, after cleaning them up, you clean the WHOLE house, feeling exhausted, tired and sweaty, and yet you have a bajillion more things to do, what is so glamorous about that? You think you know someone’s life judging them by their Instagram feed?
Another thing that I have noticed, that I get a lot, ALL THE TIME, “oh everything is so easy for you”, and I am like, how come? Did I give birth to an adult? Or my baby is totally independent? Or do I have extra helping hands? what exactly makes you think that the women who seem to have everything together have it easy ? If anything, knowing how hard it is, you should be more appreciative of their efforts to keep everything together. Being a mom, you do everything, that you never imagined yourself doing. Whether it’s cleaning up poop explosions, staying up every night being a human swing for your child to comfort them from horrible colics, to be spat on all the time, changing diapers constantly, and jumping from one phase to another, and telling yourself everyday oh it’s just a phase, and then there’s new phase, when the poop explosions stop, teething begins, and then on to the next one.
There’ll be a lot of crying, and as a new mom, you’re gonna PANIC, P A N I C, blaming yourself, thinking what else can I do to sooth and comfort them, that continuous crying gets to your brain, there’ll be times when you’ll feel like your brain is gonna explode. The sleeplessness, the exhaustion, and the continuous multi-tasking will get the best of you. With every passing day you’ll lose yourself, but at the same time, it is totally up to you. Of course it’s different for everyone, but I appreciate all women, but especially women who have positive approach towards life, I absolutely adore and respect women who not only keep their families happy, but also themselves.
I always say a happy mother makes a happy family. In the beginning, take your time, adjust to it, go with the flow, everything is going to change, your life is going to change but how fast you bounce back from that, totally depends on you. I’m so appreciative of women who stand strong and fight back the negative feelings, they’re humans too. I respect the women who embrace this blessing just how it is. I get inspired by the women who put on a smile, get down and dirty with their children, and just LET THEM BE LITTLE.
Let them be little,the days are long but the years are short, look at the bigger picture. Don’t worry about the mess they make, they’re learning, and exploring for them is the way to learn. You never know while exploring what sparks their interest at such early stage. Let their brains work, let them be happy. I have heard a lot women say, oh I don’t care about my happiness, as long as they’re happy. And I’m like are you kidding me ? They feel every emotion you feel. From the second they’re born, they can’t even see properly, but they can feel the touch of their mother. If you’re nervous/down, they feel it and get sad too, they feel every emotion, you feel, what makes you think if you are down in the dumps, they’re going to be happy ? Always remember, actions speak louder than words.
It’s very easy to lose yourself, but it’s up to you whether you chose to let go of yourself or you fight back the negative emotions and count your blessings? If you wanna let go of yourself, sure do that, but keep that in mind you’re also dragging your family with you. Never ever let yourself, your “Glamorous” go, everyone has their own definition of “Glamorous” for some it’s a perfectly ironed shawl, for some it’s a nice fragrance that makes them feel feminine, for some it’s a kohl pencil in their eyes, for some it’s their favorite hand cream. Don’t misinterpret the word “Glamorous” Everyone has their own version of it.Loving yourself is just as important as loving your family. You can’t make anyone happy, until you are happy with yourself. Don’t ever compare your life with anyone else, and that not only goes for moms but for everyone. There’ll always be people who’ll have wayyyy better or worse lives than yours.
I want women to know they’re not alone, EVERY MOTHER goes through it and doesn’t share it, because people are too quick to judge everyone, especially mothers. Oh you’re a MOM you’re not a human being, how dare you say it’s tough ? seriously? Are you so dumb? Of course there isn’t going to be a lot of appreciation, but who cares? At the end of the day, you can’t make people realize anything that they don’t want to. And don’t even try, sooner or Later they’re gonna be walking in the same shoes, if they are LUCKY. Just know in your heart there isn’t going to be anything more rewarding and meaningful, that you will ever do, other than being a Mom whether you’re a working mom or a SAHM mom, this is going to be your biggest achievement ever. I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I take so much pride in being a mom, and I couldn’t be more thankful, I’d do it all over again in a heartbeat, without a doubt,all while knowing how hard it is, because at the end of the day, IT’S ALL WORTH IT.
I hope you find this post helpful.